Comments on Lattes and Life: I'm Pulling The Plug

I'm sorry my post made you feel sad, but I'...

2009-07-16T22:33:43.877-04:00

I'm sorry my post made you feel sad, but I'm really glad it pushed you to make changes that make you happy.

I used to work full time and now I set my own schedule, which unfortunately is still during the day most of the time. I don't blog for a living though I do spend way too much time on Twitter and reading blogs when I'm not doing paid work.

I'm fortunate that my child care happens here in my house, which gives me way more time with the kids than I had when I worked and commuted.

Anyway, no idea where I'm going with this other than... Hi. :)

I feel like these words were coming out of my own ...

2009-07-06T21:26:32.559-04:00

I feel like these words were coming out of my own mouth...er hands. You know what I mean! Thanks for the reminder - family first!

Balance is hard...but balance is a must. And let&...

2009-07-06T10:09:23.612-04:00

Balance is hard...but balance is a must. And let's face it - the computer is a HUGE time sucker!

Great insight! Thanks for sharing!

2009-07-06T00:45:10.479-04:00

Great insight! Thanks for sharing!

Wow! Well said! I don't even have a blog or at...

2009-07-05T21:25:23.129-04:00

Wow! Well said!
I don't even have a blog or at-home business and I know I'm on the computer too much- my 3 kids tell me so! We homeschool, so I get online while they're working "on their own", but then when they need help, they usually hear, "just a minute".

Thanks for the reminder of why I stay home!
(p.s. saw your post on Lifeasmom.com)

Thanks for the sucker punch as you have called it....

2009-07-05T18:23:05.468-04:00

Thanks for the sucker punch as you have called it. I think I needed that more than you.

sigh...I hate when God shows me parts of myself I hate.

I was affected by her post too, and like what youv...

2009-07-03T00:02:58.451-04:00

I was affected by her post too, and like what youve had to say here. Balance is SO hard. I know it is. The blogger was @mommymelee on twitter by the way.

Oh <3, this is a really wonderful post about pe...

2009-07-02T19:12:19.015-04:00

Oh <3, this is a really wonderful post about perspective. Go you for realising what was important to you and your family and following through. Hurrah! :)

Preach it! 'Cause I need to hear it. Thanks!

2009-07-02T16:47:28.961-04:00

Preach it! 'Cause I need to hear it. Thanks!

Good for yoooouuu!!! I went through a very similar...

2009-07-02T12:04:41.326-04:00

Good for yoooouuu!!! I went through a very similar phase when I was pregnant. I was tired, and just wanted to be on the computer. Because there, I felt somewhat productive without having to move. I was used to my husband picking up the slack when it came to the toddler. And then after I had the baby... same thing. One day, I too realized, that I was spending entirely too much time on my stupid computer, and quit doing blog giveaways, and quit doing etsy crap, and started spending way more time with my kids. As a result of that, I've actually started blogging more, only, now all I have to talk about, IS my kids, because thats all I do. But, good for you. You must feel so motivated and in control when you close the laptop and focus on your family. I know I do :)

xx Tia

Good for you! It is important to put your childre...

2009-07-02T10:19:28.556-04:00

Good for you! It is important to put your children and husband first above all work! The kids won't be around forever!

It's a fine line ~ one I'm still learning...

2009-07-02T09:33:39.435-04:00

It's a fine line ~ one I'm still learning to balance. Your post definitely helped put it into perspective. Thanks

Well put. As a stay at home Mom most days for me a...

2009-07-02T08:20:52.792-04:00

Well put. As a stay at home Mom most days for me also i find the computer a relaxing thing to do also. I know i like to go to the computer quite a bit. I need to move away from it myself. Focus on my children more. I do pay attention to my family but i think there is more i could do.

Thanks for checking out my post. I seriously love ...

2009-07-01T19:53:17.435-04:00

Thanks for checking out my post. I seriously love that razor. And, no, no one paid me to say so. :)

The computer life/real life balance is hard. It shouldn't be so hard, but it is. Sigh... :(`

It's so hard, isn't it? I read an article ...

2009-07-01T10:28:05.660-04:00

It's so hard, isn't it? I read an article recently about internet addiction in new moms. It really makes sense -- you're stuck at home, isolated, w/ no adult interaction all day.

Since I am also a freelancer writer as well as a blogger, I feel "justified" in hiring a sitter a few hours a week. That's when I do my writing and sometimes blogging, though that mainly happens when the kids are asleep.

I don't think you have to unplug completely, but you're right to want to be present for your son most of the time.

This is actually a good reminder for us all. My k...

2009-07-01T09:42:58.069-04:00

This is actually a good reminder for us all. My kids are grown and I have a 2 year old granddaughter (so I'm OLD = LOL!) Sometimes I find myself doing the same sort of thing to my husband and blogging or tweeting should NOT be more important than him!

I consciously have to remind myself not to "p...

2009-07-01T09:17:31.107-04:00

I consciously have to remind myself not to "plug in" when I get home after work. I only have 4 hours with the kids before they go to bed and need to make those hours count. It's not easy though...the lure of online relationships is tempting. But my kids are more important. Thanks for the reminder, my friend.

I am a WAHM too and sometimes find myself saying t...

2009-07-01T09:15:43.291-04:00

I am a WAHM too and sometimes find myself saying the same thing. It's time to enjoy the kids when they're young and *want* to be with us.

Thanks for the reminder!

I think as SAHMs we find ourselves craving adult i...

2009-07-01T08:11:11.457-04:00

I think as SAHMs we find ourselves craving adult interaction - that's the case with me at least - and that's why we spend so much time on the computer.

I have been trying to cut down too, and it's nice to see another mom going through the same thing. I loved this post, it was so honest!

very, very good call. I considered bringing my co...

2009-07-01T08:08:51.914-04:00

very, very good call. I considered bringing my computer upstairs instead of the basement but reconsidered because I'd be on it ALL the time. the smart phone doesn't help, but it's better than my computer.

I think it's smart not to call off computer time altogether, as that's unrealistic. You've got good goals, mama!

Best of luck with that! I should take a hint and join your efforts.

Nice reality check. Thank you!

2009-07-01T08:05:52.894-04:00

Nice reality check.

Thank you!

I often feel the same way. I say "just a min...

2009-07-01T07:45:18.777-04:00

I often feel the same way. I say "just a minute" way too much to my kids. Between the laptop and the sewing machine some days I feel like I am not giving them enough of my time.

I do have a business to run, and things that need to get done every day so there are times when they do have to wait. My precious daughter also talks non-stop all day long, barely even stopping to breathe. So it's hard to answer every single question and maintain that level of involvement 14 hours a day. On the whole though I need to shut the damn computer off more and be more present for them.

Good post.

This is a fantastic post. I feel somedays way too...

2009-07-01T07:43:32.730-04:00

This is a fantastic post. I feel somedays way too connected as well.

I feel I've gotten better at the balance - primarily because my husband is home with me during the days on parental leave so my son always has some attention.

I now blog/tweet primarily at night when they are in bed, or during naps. I'm still working on that balance too though because it eats into my alone time with DH.

I also do it during quiet time or when I'm nursing/putting the baby to sleep. During the day you probably can tell when she's nursing based on the time I'm tweeting!

Thanks for the reminder why we are at home. ;)

Amen, sister! Good for you for recognizing your ha...

2009-07-01T07:36:52.326-04:00

Amen, sister! Good for you for recognizing your habit and making a decision to change it! I hope you inspire other stay at home mom bloggers to do the same :)

PS: Both of mine are still sleeping. I am in the habit of waking up painfully early to get my blog, tweet, facebook & email time. When they wake up, I'm all theirs!